be stricter about rejecting invalid configurations for remotes

be stricter about rejecting invalid configurations for remotes

This is a first step toward that goal, using the ProposedAccepted type
in RemoteConfig lets initremote/enableremote reject bad parameters that
were passed in a remote's configuration, while avoiding enableremote
rejecting bad parameters that have already been stored in remote.log

This does not eliminate every place where a remote config is parsed and a
default value is used if the parse false. But, I did fix several
things that expected foo=yes/no and so confusingly accepted foo=true but
treated it like foo=no. There are still some fields that are parsed with
yesNo but not not checked when initializing a remote, and there are other
fields that are parsed in other ways and not checked when initializing a
remote.

This also lays groundwork for rejecting unknown/typoed config keys.